“I’m just looking for the right one.” “Someday the right one will come along.” “Wait for the right one.” “Is he the right one?” “When it’s the right one you’ll know.” “You’ll find the right one, don’t you worry.”
Maybe you know some other quotes along these lines but those are just a few that come to mind currently. Seriously now though this concept while not new drives me crazy yet 98% of society buys into it (my own personal statistic). Girls are particularly bad at this, the twiddle their thumbs and wait for some guy to come sweep them off their feet and then hope that their feet will be sweeped long enough to put a ring on it. After all once your married everything becomes that much easier (sarcasm intended).
I was listening to a podcast a few days ago by Steven Furtick and it wasn’t even on the subject but somehow it got brought up very briefly but he said, “Stop worrying about finding the right one and work at being the right one.” I love this because it just seems to epitomize exactly how I feel.
Too many women are waiting on the sidelines hoping that some day it might all fall into place and this mythical “right one” will appear. These ladies are so caught up with finding the right one and measuring every guy that so much as glances their way with their right one standards that they forget to use their standards on themselves and make sure they are measuring up first.
I refuse to be one of these women. I trust God that he will bring the man I marry into my life when the timing is right, but until that time I’m not going to play the guessing game with every guy I see. Instead I will be the right one.
It kinda goes back to my spring cleaning, but being the right one is all about discipline and having your priorities in line. It’s true that right now I have little to no life. I wake up early to spend time with God before my day, I work a stressful job for long hours then either come home and run or go straight to the gym after work. I come home and try to eat dinner before 10pm, study the Word and then I go to bed. Rinse and Repeat.
Does it stink sometimes to not get to just do whatever I want whenever I want…absolutely! Today being a great example. I went hiking this morning because it was my day off, hung out with my friends and their kids at the park then worked on some stuff at home and rested. By the time it was 6pm I knew I had to go on a run. Nothing in me wanted to run. I was exhausted from a full day in the sun and my hike. However I knew that I couldn’t skip it either. Everyday that I run I’m investing in myself and my future life and kids. Everytime I wake up early to spend time with the Lord I am investing in that relationship so that our communication is clear so that when He speaks I don’t have to wonder. When I go to work I’m investing so that I can have financial stability so that when more people are added into my life they don’t have to deal with a mess that I made.
As cheesy as it sounds every time I run I think about how worth it what I’m doing is. When you work on being the right one it’s worth it. It’s worth early mornings, it’s worth soreness and it’s worth long work days. It’s worth the sacrafice to be the right one. Plus if you know you are Ms. Right you don’t really need worry about finding Mr. Right, he’ll come to you!
Live Life Extraordinary,
Alayna
“Everyday that I run I’m investing in myself…” I really like what you said. It reminds me that I need to make more consistent deposits into “myself” account. UR
yep it’s an investment that’s worth every bit of the sacrifice too